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Recognizing Your Emotions

Recognizing Your Emotions "What did you feel?" This is probably the most common question counselors ask. So much so that it is part of the comedy of being a counselor. Many times, after I tell someone I am a counselor, they ask me, "how does that make you feel?" But we ask this question because it is uniquely important. We...[ read more ]

3 Essential Listening Skills to Improve Your Relationship

3 Essential Listening Skills to Improve Your Relationship One of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship is communication. When both partners understand how to communicate properly, they feel loved, connected and secure. But when effective communication is lacking, both people can become defensive, and the relationship can be mired down in distrust, misunderstanding and resentments. When couples are...[ read more ]

3 Ways to Communicate Better With Your Partner

3 Ways to Communicate Better with Your Partner If you’ve ever been in a romantic relationship, you know firsthand how frustrating it can be. Once two people start sharing more and more time together, perhaps even begin living under the same roof, arguments are bound to happen from time to time. Sure, you both started out on your best behavior...[ read more ]

Is Stress Tanking Your Relationship?

Is Stress Tanking Your Relationship? As the research continues to grow, we are realizing how much impact stress can have on our lives. Stress not only affects our minds and emotions, but it also affects us physically. Headaches, muscle aches, digestive problems, and more have been shown to have high correlations with stress levels. A Stressful Time to Live We also have...[ read more ]

Self Differentiation Part II: Recognize Emotions

Self Differentiation Part II: Recognize Emotions I believe this is one of the most difficult things for people to do. Next time you feel something change for you, emotionally, try to name the emotion you are experiencing. I spend a lot of time on the front end of counseling sessions talking about this issue. This is so important because emotions...[ read more ]

Self-Differentiation: Part I

Self-Differentiation: Part I (This series will be multiple parts and lay out the basic understandings of Self-Differentiation from Family Systems Theory and suggest strategies to grow in this area. I have seen this knowledge and these tools be a huge help in my clients’ lives in all types of relationships. I hope you find it helpful too!) I remember when...[ read more ]

Are You Playing the Blame Game? Here’s Why You Need to Stop

Are You Playing the Blame Game? Here's Why You Need to Stop Blame and game – two words that should never be joined together. The truth is, the blame game is no fun to play and there are never any winners. And, perhaps, the biggest loser of all is the one who is doing all the blaming. When we blame...[ read more ]

How to Reduce Fighting Over Money & Budgets

How to Reduce Fighting Over Money & Budgets If you and your partner argue about money, you’re not alone. According to a recent survey, 27% of Americans said that disagreements about finances tend to erupt into full-blown arguments. This means couples fight more about money than they do about work, chores or the kids (http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/alpha-consumer/2010/10/18/the-biggest-money-mistakes-couples-make). Perhaps even more disturbing is...[ read more ]

Where Do We Go From Here…

Where Do We Go From Here…   It’s tough to believe that we are already one month into 2018. Sometimes when I think about how quickly time seems to go by I get down on myself. I wonder if I am accomplishing enough. Or if I am spending enough time with my family. I am wondering if what I am...[ read more ]

6 Great Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Bond

6 Great Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Bond Love is a beautiful thing, and there’s nothing more amazing than feeling the bond you share with your partner get stronger. If you’re in a happy relationship, you can keep it that way by introducing a few new things into your relationship. Here are 6 evidence-based approaches that will help you enjoy...[ read more ]